Sunday evening we decided to have a dinner and drink on dad. He always wanted to pay for everything so we let him. After dinner we each talked to dad and told him it was time to go and to be with mom and that he didn't have to worry about anything here. We took care or everything and everything is under control. We each hugged and kissed him and told him our personal message. We then all stood around him and held hands. We blessed him with holy water from Lourdes, that my sister had gotten for my mom and I had it here. We said a prayer.
His breathing became less gurgly and more shallow. At 5:15 this morning he took his last breath and went to be with mom, his brother, his friend Monty and his parents and everyone else waiting for him.
Dads had a fever again of 101°F‚. We gave him another tylenol supository. He only opened his for a couple of seconds at this time. He hasn't opened his eyes now since we changed his entire bedding this morning.After reading brainhospice.com which has been a wonderful site on helping us out, we decided that alot of dad's symptoms seem to be that he is hanging on.
So we decided to all gather around dad and tell him that it was OK to go. That mom was waiting for him and that he doesn't have to worry about us or anything else. We each hugged him and told him our personal messages. I have some holy water from Lourdes that my Lynne gave my mom, so we blessed him and held hands (Beverly, Lynne, Larry, Jessica and Arnie) and said said the Our Father and Hail Mary.
We also told him that we were having a great dinner on him and a drink afterwards (He always wants to pay for everything!)
As soon as he was read to go it was OK, because that was the plan. He always wants to know what the plan is.
Anyway, its about 1:00 am and he is still hanging in there, with now shallow breathing. His "death rattle" has subsided and hopefully he will relax and let go. We are still administrating his Morphine, steriod, seizere meds. and XanaX cream. We toasted dad and talked about good times on the patio.
I'll post soon.
